If you're not eating for health and happiness, you're doomed!
I thought I was going to break it to you nice and slowly but I just couldn't find the words other then to be so direct.
Women today struggle to eat for improving their health and well-being because they are too busy trying to eat to look like the girl on the cover of the magazine. (Not that it is wrong thing to look like a model - but it is wrong to put too much pressure on yourself when positive health habits and realistic goals/time frames need to be established first). We are all unique and instead of embracing this, we compare ourselves to other people, bringing our self-esteem down. When we have motives to change, it's the most illogical thing to do, because when we put ourselves down, we push ourselves so far away from what we really are able to achieve.
If we start to eat for health and well-being purposes we will glow, feel happy, perform at our best and find our optimal weight and body figure. What's the point in dieting to reach an aesthetic goal when you don't even know if your body and mind will be happy in that state or be able to sustain that goal. It makes much more sense to strive for a state of health, love and happiness - because clearly that is the problem. Women are unhappy and lack self-love. When we do reach happiness and a self loving state we will feel the power and transfer that energy to perform in a way that will physically match up.
Eat and train for happiness and your ideally body will form.
My number one recommendation is either to start logging your foods down in a diary or create an incredible photographic memory of all your foods/meals in a day and log how you feel. Does the meal make you feel sad, happy, content, full, or sick? Food is so emotional and if you can't realize this from the beginning of your healthy eating program, you will always be a step behind.
When you find meals that keep your emotions happy, ensure this reflects upon your physical performance. If you can perform optimally and be in a happy state of mind, embrace this! Learn everything you can about the experience and try to replicate it every day.
Without realization, your body will transform because your positive mind will guide you!
If you're mind is not happy, you cannot progress. You can train as hard as you want or eat the strictest diet (neither would I prescribe) and you will never be satisfied. You will always feel less than good because you haven't been prioritizing what matters first.
Your state of happiness.
Self love - no matter what shape or size.
Happiness reflects performance and performance reflects how we feel about our body.
Eat foods that make you happy.
It might take some time for you to learn which foods keep you feeling optimal, so embrace the journey! ;)